New Year’s Resolutions.

On January 1st its impossible not to talk about new year’s resolutions. We spend the days before new year’s eve making mental notes about how we are going to become better people, lose weight, find true love, get our dream jobs and become the ultimate version of  ourselves. We examine our lives and take all the aspects we dislike and decide that next year will be the year we will get rid of them. However all these resolutions generally end up being empty promises since by the end of January most of us will have thrown in the towel and stopped working toward the goals we set for ourselves at the beginning of the new year.

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So lets talk about the reasons why we generally fail to make these resolutions come true:

They are too vague – Saying “I want to lose weight” is not the same as saying “I want to lose 10 pounds by March.” If you don’t set up a very specific goal it becomes hard to know what you are working towards and it makes it even harder to hold yourself accountable for making your resolution come true.

They are too aspirational – Yeah its great to make a resolution such as “I’m going to lose 100 pounds” or “I am going to be a famous writer” but realistically speaking it is very unlikely you will achieve something so big which may end up discouraging you from pursuing these goals once you come to the realization that they are almost impossible to attain. Instead aim for something doable such as “I am going to write 500 words a day” or “I am going to lose 5 pounds a month.” You will then realize that these little goals will add up to huge results by the time December rolls around.

Lack of planning – Making resolutions such as “I will travel the world” or “I will work out every day” will not happen if you don’t plan accordingly. For the former you need to figure out where you want to go and when you will have enough vacations/ample funds in order to make this trip happen. For the latter you will need to join a gym, figure out which classes you would like to take and how to fit them into your schedule. This applies to pretty much every resolution, if you don’t plan accordingly you are more likely to drop the ball on whatever promise you made to yourself.

You are delusional – I’m sorry but finding true love is not something you can resolute to and you will never become Taylor Swift, no matter how hard you try.

You shouldn’t have to wait until January 1st to become a better person – Most of the time the things we put on our resolution list are things we’ve had on our minds for a long time. So why wait until January 1st to finally make them happen? Why not make them happen December 1st, October 31st, on the first day of summer or on Valentine’s day? Don’t put off anything you truly want to accomplish because you fear you will not make it come true.

So this year I have decided that instead of making a long list of things that I am going to change once the new year starts, I am going to set a new goal or two every month and accomplish it. The thing about starting small is that once you start making small changes you will see huge results, and by the time the year ends you will definitely be Taylor Swift that improved version of yourself you so wanted to see.

Here is my January resolution: I will start writing again (being specific here) I’m aiming at 3 blog posts per week and at least one published article a month (being realistic here) since I spent the majority of 2014 trying out basically every workout and boutique fitness class in New York I will begin by reviewing every single one of them (oh hey, a plan!) and I will start by reviewing my absolute favorite class in the city Physique 57.

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Stay tuned!

Why Are Dark Haired Girls Always The “Bad” Girls?

Original article published in Cosmopolitan.

Betty-and-Veronica

She wears short skirts, I wear T-shirts
She’s cheer captain and I’m on the bleachers. 

— 2016 presidential candidate Taylor Swift

Last night I Instant Netflixed an episode of American Horror Story in which an evil little girl murders people, in the style of real-life Mary Bell, with long, dark Wednesday Addams braids. And this morning Reese Witherspoon returned to her blonde locks after her brief, ill-fated stint as a brunette. OK, in Reese’s case it’s a pretty clear PR-recommended move to erase her arrest from everyone’s mind. Nevertheless, what’s with the zeitgeisty demonization of dark-haired ladies?

I guess we have Archie Comics’ Betty and Veronica to blame for the blonde/brunette dichotomy (although, unfortunately, I can’t say that the concept of two smoking hot, smart, female friends of varying pigmentations fighting over an unremarkable ginger for decades is only confined to comic books). While Betty was a down-to-earth tomboy who could change a tire and “always tried to do the right thing,” Veronica was a high-maintenance, scheming rich girl. (But don’t hate on her. Like Jessica Rabbit, she was just drawn this way.) We all knew Archie would end up with good-girl Betty. Incidentally, while all of the boys in Archie comics had different facial features, Betty and Veronica’s were identical. Hello, Freud.

The grand tradition continued from our parents’ adolescence to our own — case in point: Blair and Serena on the first few seasons of Gossip Girl — and even hair textures come into the female stereotype mix. On Sex and The City, blonde Carrie brings up The Way We Were to lambast Mr. Big’s “perfect,” icy new brunette wife Natasha. (Basically, Veronica in 3D.)

Miranda: “But he can’t be with her because she’s too complicated, and she has wild curly hair. So he leaves her and marries this…simple girl. With straight hair.”

Carrie: “Ladies, I am having an epiphany. The world is made up of two types of women: the simple girls, and the Katie girls. I am a Katie girl.

(Incidentally, short of a mohawk or an actual shape buzzed up against his skull, I have never heard any kind of assumptions about men’s personalities based on their hair color or hair texture. “His hair is straight, so he must be boring.” Whaaaat?)

In Taylor Swift’s “You Belong With Me,” Good Blonde Tay-Tay bounces around her bedroom in nerd glasses, Converse and tie-dyed T-shirts while Bad Brunette Tay-Tay – who SO was half a virgin last year! – walks around in stiletto heels and B*tch Face and lets the boy next door get to third base in the back of her convertible.

BUT CAN’T [HE] SEEEEEEE HE BELONGS WITH [HERRRRRRR]?! (Spoiler alert: Yes.)

So there’s no question why blondes have more fun — everyone assumes us dark-haired ladies are either waiting for a guy to drape his coat over a sidewalk puddle or stabbing a 4th grade playmate with a pair of kitchen scissors.

Prom With A Touch Of Punk: Met Gala 2013

Last week was the most important night in fashion: The Met Gala. While the invite specifically said the theme was punk, it seems that not everyone followed the theme. However I have curated a gallery of the looks that I considered that best followed the theme while looking fabulous!

Met galaMiley Cyrus in Marc Jacobs

Met Gala 2Kristen Stewart in Stella McCartney

met gala 3Anne Hathaway in Valentino (sideboob included)

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My personal favorite: Taylor Swift in J.Mendel.

met gala 5Nicole Richie in Topshop.

Met gala 6Karolina Kurkova in Mary Katrantzou.

met gala 7Of course Lady Madonna would get the punk look right, she actually live it the first time around.

met gala 8Rosie Huntington Whiteley in Burberry.

met gala 9Ginnifer Goodwyn in Tory Burch.

met gala 11Karlie Kloss in Louis Vuitton.

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Jessica Biel in Giambattista Valli.

met gala 15Kelly Osbourne in Marc Jacobs.

Maybe She’s The Problem

There is something that has been bothering me a while now and I feel that my followers could clear my doubts about this topic I need clarifying with. Miley Cyruss has been engaged to be married to the same man for about a year and people call her a Ho, but Taylor Swift has a new boyfriend every week and she’s wholesome? There’s got to be something wrong in the way we use these terms.

After listening to 20 different songs about her 20 failed relationships with 20 different guys, doesn’t it make sense to conclude that maybe she’s the problem?