The More I Shop, The More Miserable I Feel. Retail Therapy Analyzed.

original article published in The Huffington Post.

Forget meditation and yoga: For many stressed-out Americans, the best remedy for a stressful day at work or the sting of a painful breakup is the smell of brand-new clothing, the feel of a silk dress and the sound of a credit card being swiped. If you turn to retail therapy in times of anxiety, you’re not alone — according to a recent survey, nearly one in three recently stressed Americans (which accounts for 91 percentof the general population) shops to deal with stress.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, the survey — an online poll of over 1,000 U.S. adults commissioned by the Huffington Post — found that women were twice as likely as men to use retail therapy as a way to cope with stress (40 percent vs. 19 percent). And in turn, men were more than twice as likely as women (34 percent vs. 16 percent) to say that they had never shopped out of stress and would never consider doing so in the future.

But gender aside, there is one trait many “stress-shoppers” have in common: They tend to seek distracting, temporary fixes to alleviate their stress. HuffPost’s survey found that those who shop to deal with anxiety (versus those who do not) were also…

  • 46 percent more likely to exercise to cope with stress
  • 86 percent more likely to eat to cope with stress
  • 76 percent more likely to worry about their weight

In other words, the stress-shoppers are also “stress-eaters” and “stress-exercisers.” Those who used retail therapy tend toward the “flight” side of fight vs. flight, distancing themselves from the stress with an unrelated activity rather than facing it head-on. In contrast, the respondents who said they never shop to deal with stress were more likely to cope by finding the root of their anxiety and confronting it.

And yet stress-shopping is still an appealing coping mechanism — and it helps that it’s super convenient. Many of us shop online using our iPads, laptops and even cell phones. “It was so easy to lose track of how much I was spending,” Darleen Meier, a self-described “Gilt addict,” told HuffPost Women in 2011. “At the high point, I was getting boxes delivered to my doorstep every single day of the week. It was time to stage an intervention.”

As temporarily uplifting as an afternoon of store-hopping may be, excessive consumption can leave a lingering toll on your credit card statement that may ultimately lead to higher stress levels due to financial concerns. Unsurprisingly, those who turned to retail therapy were more likely to feel stressed out by unexpected expenses (55 percent vs. 44 percent) and to be concerned about how they’ll pay their monthly bills (59 percent vs. 34 percent).

To curb a stress-spending habit and avoid accumulating debt on impulse purchases, try to avoid shopping altogether when you know you’re feeling upset or anxious. If you do need to shop, go with a list of items that you actually need to buy — and stick to it. Women’s personal finance resource Learvest also recommends leaving credit cards at home and carrying cash instead, unsubscribing from email newsletters from your favorite retailers and avoiding shopping with wealthy friends as ways to tame an impulse-buying habit.

Of course, that’s all easier said than done. Do you ever shop to deal with stress? How to you try to curb your stress-shopping habits?

London’s Selfridges To Launch Drive-Thru Service.

Original article published in Time Magazine.

Fashion might be many things, but one thing it’s typically not is convenient.

Shopping for fashion, however, is about to get a lot easier for Londoners. The British luxury retail giant Selfridges has announced that they’re developing a new drive-thru service for their flagship store. Known as click and collect, the service will allow customers to order products online and pick them up at their convenience. The company is outfitting their famous Oxford Street location with a drive-thru lane at the back of the shop where customers will be able to pull in and have their pre-selected Prada or Pucci handed to them without ever having to leave the car.

While the new service isn’t up and running yet – Simon Forster, Selfridges’ multi-channel director tells the London Evening Standard that they’re hoping to launch early next year – customers can pre-order their items and collect them in-store in the meantime. Of course, the company already offers home delivery for items purchased at selridges.com and online shopping has gone a long way in upping the ease factor of filling your closet. Yet even the savviest e-shopper knows that there are times when home delivery just won’t do. Think waiting around for the delivery person or paying extra for express shipping.

The buy and collect option aims to streamline the process, allowing customers to peruse products at their leisure online and pick-up their selections when it fits their schedule. And according to Forster, customers can expect the same level of service they’re already accustomed to inside Selfridges’ walls. “It will not just be the first drive-through service, it will be the best.”

Your move, Barneys.

 

Currently Craving: Graduation Present Edition.

Ladies and Gentlement, Boys and Girls I did it. I am officially done with my undergrad.

As of Sunday May 12th I will be an Emerson Alumni. I have to say I have never had so many feelings happening at once, so in order to distract myself from them I have compiled a little list of gifts I would love to receive.

For my coffee table:

bookTaschen’s book Trespass. A history of uncommissioned urban art. Because my love of street art just continues.

beatsA pair of white beats with white details.

chanel legoA lego-inspired Chanel night purse.

louboutinAnd of course a pair of clear Louboutin’s to go with that fabulous purse.

Never stop wishing!

The Foreign Girl.

WANTED- Je Voudrais.

brooklynLately I have been going through a really REALLY big obsession with men’s sweaters. I think I have bought about four in the past two months but then I came across this BWGH one which stole my hear, yet it is absolutely sold-out EVERYWHERE. If anyone finds it I am willing to offer huge rewards for it. You know where to find me!

 

The New Penis Envy

Original article published in The Elite Daily

“Women’s liberation” is a term that implies a lot of things. We are now allowed to vote, to pursue a higher education, occupy jobs that were traditionally reserved only for men — and yes, now we are even allowed to be their bosses.

Women are now CEOs of very important companies, are bosses to men, make higher salaries than men, and sometimes even higher salaries than their husbands — so in order to break away from the “damsel in distress” stereotype, they have to begin by changing their wardrobes and even attitudes.

However, with the breakage of so many stigmas that have forever haunted women, has also followed a new approach towards clothing and the way women dress. The modern day power woman has resorted to power dressing in order to establish her power over her male counterparts and even female subordinates.

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This doesn’t mean that women have stopped dressing in a way that emphasizes those physical traits that are appealing to men, yet in order to transmit a sense of authority they have chosen a new approach to sexiness. In the past years more and more women have taken a “power dressing” approach to sexiness, trading in their body-con skirts and little black dresses for a well-tailored suit that allows them to look more professional.

This look is a more low-key approach to sexiness, since a well-tailored suit can hug a female body in all the right places, while still preserving a somewhat conservative image. It is almost as if this kind of outfit sets the tone for a type of sexiness based more on what you imagine, than about what you see. We can call this discreet style of sexiness “office appropriate.”

This approach is not one that can only be found in corporate offices, we have seen the celebration of power dressing in a wide variety of fashion houses in the past year.

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From Chanel’s “The Little Black Jacket” exhibit that took place last June in New York, to YSL’s “Le Smoking Party” to the funky printed pant suits Prada included in both their spring and fall collections, it seems like designers support the idea that the modern day power woman is meant to dress like a very sexy man.

Even the typically gown-filled Hollywood red carpets have included a series of pantsuits and jumpers that are anything but your traditionally feminine eveningwear. Designers have finally understood that power women are fashion conscious too, but need clothing that will allow them to move comfortably around the office.

However the success of a tv-show like “Mad Men” — where women are portrayed as bombshell secretaries who wear pencil skirts and red lipstick to emphasize their femininity — really makes us wonder if the power woman secretly wishes to wear those seductive outfits, while maintaining her career-woman status.

Could it be that under every power woman there is just a little girl who wishes to be swept of her feet? Evidence shows that the modern power woman, instead of wanting to be saved by a man, is now saving herself.  And she is doing so by asserting herself using her clothing as a means of expression of her empowerment.

Adriana | Elite.

 

 

When Art and Fashion Intersect

I have always believed that Art and Fashion go hand in hand. However my beliefs were proven to be true this past week, when I discovered what has become my favorite boutique in Manhattan: Dagny and Barstow (264 Bowery). Located in the trendy neighborhood Nolita, Dagny and Barstow is a hybrid between clothing boutique and art gallery. What is even more awesome about this store is that they promote up-and-coming artists from around the globe, combined with a number of clothing lines that can’t be found in you conventional high-end stores.

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Jessica Hodin, from the Windsor Art group, curates the store’s Art collection. Dagny and Barstow also features collaborations with Artstar.com. Among the sartorial choices you can find in this store is everything from accessories by Theirry Lasry to Outerwear by Swash London and even beauty products by Etat Libre D’Orange. It also has a carefully curated vintage selection of scarves, handbags and other accessories. After visiting this store, seeing all it’s beautiful art and clothing and declaring it my favorite in Manhattan, I couldn’t help but wonder: why didn’t I come up with this idea?

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Boston Christmas Events

As the weather gets colder, and the year draws to an end, most of us ‘tis the season to be naughty. This means calling in sick to work more often than were supposed to and getting drunk during our huge family gatherings. However, with the amount of Christmas events Boston’s offering this year, you might want to reconsider your highly anticipated holiday bender and actually go out and enjoy the city’s holiday cheer. From shopping, to ice skating to unusual versions of the nutcracker here is a list of events you might want to check out if you decide to get creative with your Christmas plans.

We understand you’re tired of seeing The Nutcracker every Christmas, but this year you can watch a more modern version of this classic. For the 5th consecutive year The Slutcracker will be playing at The Somerville theatre (55 Davis Sq.) and it’s a burlesque version of our beloved story except this one contains strippers instead of proper well-to-do little girls. We don’t feel we need to mention this, but The Slutcracker is most definitely not kid friendly so for those of you who still wish to enjoy The Nutcracker with your little ones, Tchaikovsky’s original ballet version of the story will be playing through Dec 31st. at the Boston Opera House (539 Washington St.).

As for other Christmas shows, for three days only (Dec 26th-28th) you can get in touch with your cheesy side and go see probably the largest amount of glitter and hairspray you will ever see in your life. That’s right, this year Boston will have its own version of the Radio City Christmas Spectacular- Rockettes included!! The show will be performed at the Citi Performing Arts Center (270 Tremont Street) so even if you are stuck in Boston for the holidays, you can feel almost as if you had a vacation in New York (right). Given we are on the subject of cheesy, you can also head to Symphony Hall (301 Massachusetts Av.) and check out the Boston Pops holiday special, which plays through Dec. 26th and features a special appearance by none other than Saint Nick himself.

Now we assume after seeing the old bearded guy, you would get in the mood for some Christmas shopping. What better place to do so than in the SOWA Holiday Market (74 Union Park St.), which is the Christmas version of the famous SOWA open market and features more than 80 local artisans and designers. Think of it as a two for one deal, not only will you get amazing gifts for you and your loved ones, but you will also be helping the local economy grow! Happy Holidays to all our loyal readers. DWN.